“Love is stronger than death” - the Gospel of Mary Magdalene
To invest in your partnership yields exponential return, for your family before and beyond your time. Thank you for making this step towards quantum and ancestral healing. I incorporate an eclectic approach that clinically blends attachment with the work of Stan Tatkin (PACT) and Terry Real (RLT). It is imperative to have a psychobiological understanding of what occurs in the brain when we are triggered vs when we are in connection, so as to train ourselves not to engage from our wounding and how to come back into connection practically. I also resonate with the need to make relational commitments and mindset shifts, moving from a “me” to a “we” level of consciousness. I blend principles and techniques of co-regulation and self responsibility to form the backbone of our work together.
A unilaterally psychological container is not sufficient to hold lasting love. Without devotion, your relationship will feel flat and weak. I bring an irreverent reverence to my work with you, sharing my own journey along the way, while suggesting accessible practices to kindle the sacred fire within and together. Restoring sacred union is a true service to the modern age. While I respect and sympathize with those who choose paths of polyamory or alternative relationship configurations, it is my decision to work with couples who love within a monogamous commitment. The mystery teachings I incorporate from Gnostic and Essene roots require a sturdy container in order to seed and flourish.
Holding the family is an extension from my couples work, and draws upon an understanding of the family as its own unit and system which will always impact the members within. Working from a systems approach, there is no one to blame, as we are all reflections of the health of the whole. Removing shame and blame is often the first order of business. Then we create enough safety to finally tell the truth with vulnerability and heart. I draw upon the philosophy and attitude of Carl Whitaker, a founder of systems based family therapy. I temper directness with humor and compassion. And awe. There is a great deal of awe and magic to observe as the system gets tweaked, attempts to reassert the status quo, and then ultimately softens to allow for an updated version of each member. We get to dilute the assigned roles that create limitation, make significant repairs where needed, and redesign a structure that allows for future unfolding.